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New Moon, New Resolution

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It’s been a challenging few days.  I’ve felt stretched to my limit as a mother, and yet I’ve managed to face things in creative ways that I can only attribute to some combination of time, experience, support, and wry humor.  I’m thinking more about the consequences for the choices Daughter makes before reacting; I may be angry, and she may know it, but I’m keeping my distance and thinking before laying down the law.

Her father and I talked about some of what she’s been doing over the phone, and her behaviors are often unfamiliar territory to me.  She (Daughter’s father) admitted that there are patterns all too familiar to her; so at least I know who to blame, right?  😉

It’s really amazing how alike they are in some ways, despite Daughter not having lived with her father for the majority of her life.  They only reconnected a little more than a year ago, yet . . . *sighs*  There are positives and negatives, and I’m exhausted.

But I can feel good about my own actions and choices, and I can praise my daughter for getting her schoolwork done in record time.  It took her less than ninety minutes to do her day’s schoolwork, with the exception of our shared project (learning from Doodle Math videos by Vi Hart on YouTube.com).

Getting Ready to Write

Getting Ready to Write

Today is the new moon, and with it comes another healthy addition to my daily routine.   Along with my water, vitamins, and daily photo (I forgot yesterday’s!  Yipe!), I will now also be stretching every day and doing one of the following each day: morning grounding, afternoon/evening meditation, or shamanic journey.  In May, I might add “dancing to connect with Spirit” as part of the spiritual rotation.  I get to choose what feels right to me each day, but it’s usually best to not journey more than once a week, unless one is providing service to others.

Today I followed through on all of it.  I awoke remembering what day it was.  I also awoke incredibly sore and exhausted, but I did morning grounding in bed (with a 22 lb. cat trying to sit on my chest, no less), I took three deep breaths afterwards, and no longer felt quite as sore.  I got up, dealt with morning hygiene, ate a banana with a spoonful of peanut butter, had a cup of pumpkin spice tea, and took my vitamins.  Later in the day, I was already halfway through my water quota when I took my daily photo and just before my writing session with my co-author/Daughter’s father, I stretched my legs, arms, and back for 10 minutes.  I used a combination of moves I learned from yoga, quigong, and dance classes, and felt a little better than when I’d started.

So, this new year and new moon are off to a shaky start, but at least I feel confident that I’m doing my best most days, even when I’ve been handed few too many spoons.

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Days 10 & 11: A Ballet and a Short Story

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Friday I took Daughter and friend-of-a-friend’s daughter out to see the PNB Nutcracker complete with sets designed by Maurice Sendak.  We’d not seen it since Daughter was six, and she really enjoyed it.  She also enjoyed gm’ing a LARP (live action roleplaying game) during intermission with her friend.

Raven ready for the ballet in pinstripes, lace, and fur

Raven ready for the ballet in pinstripes, lace, and fur.

Today I didn’t get nearly as much cleaning done as I wanted to, but I did make an amazing (and amazingly simple) French-inspired dinner of chicken roasted in a salt mix including herbs de provence complete with lavender, roasted carrots and brussels sprouts, and mushroom risotto with left over rice and a heaping pile of chantrelles, which are abundant this season.  We finished it up with berry pie warmed in the oven and vanilla ice cream.  I also finished the first draft of the short story due on the 15th.  It doesn’t leave much time to have it checked over and given a revision, but I do hope it’s enough.  I was really struggling through the pain and found it hard to get into the minds of the two characters as much as I’d have liked.  If it’s rejected, I’m not sure if I could polish it and sell it off somewhere else, since it’s meeting a specific theme.  Then again, maybe it’ll be cute enough to find a place somewhere that appreciates humorous erotica.

Raven drinks hot ginger tea in the mug Art gave her

Raven drinks hot ginger tea in the mug Art gave her

Lots of tea and water the last two days.  My throat’s feeling sore, and my body is run down, so I’ve made lots of different healing tisanes and the like.  Vitamins taken on both days.  Lots of weight gain, but I attribute it to retained water.  If I’m fighting off something, then my body will need even more water than my 64oz. quota.